Why Do Some Cats Choose a Favorite Person?
10 July, 2017
cat with favorite

We love our cats for all their weird, quirky and loving traits.  Each cat is so different in how he or she expresses his or her love, bonding and trust.  And while some cats tend to be a little more stand-offish, others love just about anyone.  You might even adopt or have a cat at home that prefers you, your spouse or even child more and really, what’s the rub?!

Cats are a bit more discerning than dogs when it comes to attachments

It’s really not that surprising to anyone who has a cat to find out that he or she chooses a favorite person over everyone else at home.  Dogs can be the same way, but cats are a little more fussy and particular.  Cats might not be as dependent as us on dogs, but they do attach themselves to their family members.  And some might go as far as having a favorite.

The favorite could be the person who feeds and plays with the cat more

Many cats do choose a favorite person among the family.  Your kitty might favorite someone because that person feeds or plays with the cat or spends more time around the kitty.  Every cat has an individual preference and their favorite could depend on the cat’s history and personality.  Skittish kitties sometimes favor someone who helps them feel secure and doesn’t try to corner the cat.

If your cat becomes extremely skiddish around other people and only likes you, your cat could suffer from separation anxiety.  In this case, a behavioral therapist could help and is covered in some pet insurance policies, like Embrace.

Becoming your kitty’s number one might be as simple as learning how to communicate with them.

Some cats might just be manipulating us to be their favorite because they know we will be the one that feeds them or spoils them.  And that usually works! Maybe, we just know what makes that kitty purr, head butt or roll over for us!

If you want to be the cat’s favorite, this is what you shouldn’t do!

If you want to be the cat’s favorite, then don’t approach the cat if he or she doesn’t want you to.  This kitty may not want to be handled or interacted with and will come to you on his own terms.  Think how you might feel being touched or handled when you aren’t in the mood.  Basically, humans who interact with their cats, giving them attention in the way they want attention — quickly become the favorite person the household, and the cats will then become very affectionate.

Earning a cat’s trust takes patience, but it definitely pays off in the end.

Cats aren’t always big on trusting. It’s part of their lingering wildness…and, if they were strays, sometimes part of their emotional baggage. It could be the individual’s manners, voice or simply how that how that person treats the cat that throws the kitty off.  Or even if the cat chooses a favorite, he or she might be loving to others too, but might not be the chosen one!

Could it be a breed issue?

That’s one theory. The Siberian cat, Norwegian forest cats, Russian blues, Bengals, and Himalayans are supposed to be more of a one-person cat. They tend to need a lot of interaction and trust and, once this is established, they will not feel the need to be with another person. While it’s fun to be a favorite, in this case, it might be annoying if this is a pre-existing condition of your kitty who then becomes too dependent.

So, what to do if you are not the chosen one?  Accept it and before you know it, that kitty will come to you and bond more than you might have thought!

While this is fun to be a favorite, if your cat is acting up around other people, it could be indicative of a medical condition, which would most likely be covered under and cat-insurance policy.

 

3 thoughts on “Why Do Some Cats Choose a Favorite Person?”

  1. Its very weird we have a cat and she loves my granddaughter she purrs with her lays with her shows affection she meows at her she comes when she calls her but with everyone else she stays distant if we are lucky she might let us pet her.she wont let nobody else pick her up.we r sweet with her but she stays distant from all of us I just dont understand her

  2. Its very weird we have a cat and she loves my granddaughter she purrs with her lays with her shows affection she meows at her she comes when she calls her but with everyone else she stays distant if we are lucky she might let us pet her.she wont let nobody else pick her up.we r sweet with her but she stays distant from all of us I just dont understand her

    1. Yeah it’s very weird how and why cats chose their favorite. When I was younger my family asopted a cat who was just under a year old. I soon after became her favorite. Who knows why..maybe I because I had the cleanest room in the house? I didn’t give her treats or even was the one to feed her. It was strange because she wanted nothing to do with my mom and brothers and always slept on my bed. Cats are truly a mystery. Once they find that special person they just bond and don’t go back. So odd.

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